When younger men date older women there is a different dynamic presented that is not an issue when people who are of similar ages date.
Depending upon the differences in age, there can be some serious factors that can drastically affect how a relationship flourishes or flops.
A woman who is several years older than the man, may have already established herself in her career, whereas the man may not have. Her income may be much higher than his, and her social connections will undoubtedly be more solid than his.
The woman’s life experiences will be more varied and her sense of self awareness will be more fully matured. If the woman discovers that the younger man is not fully capable of dealing with all of that, then she is likely to drop him like a hot potato.
Let’s face it, many such “older woman, younger man” relationships start out in bed, and since that can be a very enjoyable event, at first it can seem like two people are made for each other. Relationships that last, however, are built on much more than just sex, although that can be a very important component.
People who thrive in a relationship find that a certain kind of mutual respect has to occur, or the togetherness will eventually wear off and the partnership will fail.
Many younger men are immature still, and not really set in their career or their views. If the younger man is still finding his way, it can be very difficult for a woman to go with that, as she does not want to be an “older sister” or his mother. People have to feel like each partner is going to be able to carry his or her own weight in the arrangement.
If the man, however is safe and secure in his career, and is pulling that part off, he will more than likely be confident in other areas of life as well. In this case it is not so much the career itself, as it is the young man being able to master it, and dominate his role in the career.
This will speak volumes to the woman, who even being older has what it takes as well, but she will see an equal who is succeeding as well, and this is very much what she wants from the equation.
The younger man will also need to fit into the woman’s social scheme of things, whereas it might be more difficult for her to fit into his, unless he has graduated out of the single’s sports bar routine, and fixation on young guy single things.
Women are looking for more well-rounded males who are sure of themselves and who are pretty successful at about anything that they do. Call them “alpha males” but titles don’t fit the role, but actions do.
The formula for when younger men date older women is simply that each partner needs to find equality together and a blend of their respective strengths, which they recognize to be positive.